The One Stop Shop!

Introduces: The One Stop Shop!

Benefits of this Program!

  • Boost your child’s self-esteem
  • Learning cognitive behavioral techniques in a fun way to cope to help with impulsivity
  • Acquire time-management & focus in a quick in quick and fun way!

Our main features are:

The Diary Pages with simple self-scoring (measuring self-esteem), and The Drifting Tree (time-management and organization).

Now using the “diary pages”   from the famous internationally published workbook called- AD/HD Success! Solutions to Boosting Self-Esteem The Diary Method Ages 7-17, parents can finally relax! Kids will gain the confidence they so badly need!

Parents, you  all know that children with learning challenges all share some basics in common! Well all they feel and hear, is how different they are. Now they can feel special as they learn basic techniques to help them feel ahead of the game!

For years, parents have struggled to find ways to help their kids without emptying out their pockets!

Instead of spending tons of money on tutors, buying games that are used once, or anything else, for a limited time only,

Coach Kerin is happy to provide girls and boys with the “diary pages” to learn just what they need to identify, first verbally explaining the situation that caused them to get worked up, and then using the ” diary pages” so that they can learn quickly and in a fun way, how to be in control of their impulses and thoughts!

In addition to using the diary pages, kids can use our well known “Drifting Tree”. This tree helps with spotting when drifting/daydreaming begins! This same tree will help kids learn at what time of the day, they are working themselves up, and have the urge to be impulsive, and then learn how to speak to themselves in such a way as to not act out!

Email us for the age of the student, and we will email you two diary pages right away!

No worries, we understand kids have lots of homework and extra curricular activities, so we can come to your house and each session lasts just one half hour!

OR

You can email us at reachbeyondADD@aol.com for a time when it is convenient for you to set up a FREE consultation!

Thank you,
Coach Kerin

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ADDICTION, AD/HD, CREATIVITY & THE RISE & FALL OF BRILLIANCE

A dedication to Robin Williams

PBS NewsHour recently featured an interview on the topic of the creative mind and mental illness with Judy Woodruff and Dr. Nancy Andreasen.. Mentioned in that piece was the fact that many well-known writers, such as Kurt Vonnegut and John Cheever, to mention just a few , had suffered with mental anguish throughout their lives.

As with many actors, Robin Williams’ genius came at a high price. I learned this first-hand, based on a lifelong association with the work of my father, the late Dr. Leopold Bellak, a pioneer in what was first called Minimal Brain Dysfunction, then ADD, and now AD/HD. According to Harvard ADHD psychiatrist Dr. John Ratey, Dr. Bellak is noted for many contributions, but he was the first to realize that ADHD is a genetic disorder,  meaning that it is more complex an issue than previously thought.

Dr. Bellak, who was Harvard-educated, created the C.A.T. (Children’s Apperception Test), and authored 36 books. He once said, “When one has had a troubled childhood, it is more than likely that the person’s adult life will be troubled as well.”  From the 1950’s through the 1970’s, for the most part, successful men with ADHD and large egos who were concerned with their reputations, could not rely on their humility to get the help they so badly needed. It appears that Robin Williams was different. Here humility not only helped him have empathy towards others, but it also  gave him the ability to attempt to seek the help he so badly needed. Dr. Nancy Andreasen, chairperson of the Psychiatry department at the University of Iowa, has said thatas with so many of our creative geniuses , feelings of overwhelming loneliness, despair, inadequacy, and just not “fitting” cancome with the territory and be pervasive with this type of personality.

During the PBS interview, Dr. Andreasen noted that profiles of such hugely successful people   can be and often are remarkable. So often these people have crushing personal histories against the record of extraordinary achievement, and it’s inspiring.

Robin Williams’ childhood was difficult. As an only child, he was left to his own imagination to entertain himself, and he felt the need to entertain the staff that was hired to take care of him. His father was a successful business man, and his mother was an actress. With no siblings and no parental direction, where was he to acquire the ability to know how to be in a healthy relationship?  In an excerpt on CBS Sunday Morning on August 17th, Robin mentioned that as a child, he had his first nervous breakdown.  Back in the 1950’s, not much was known about mood disorders, unfortunately.

Many famous people lack humility and an understanding of their mood disorders. So consequently, they turn to drugs, sex, and alcohol  in an attempt to remedy their personal pain and anguish.  In my work as a consultant and coach with adults and children, I often see adults who have bipolar or ADHD in their families; i.e, their parents or sibling go untreated. The adults are often in denial.

Robin had a heart of gold. Just as his talents knew no bounds, neither did his generosity.  He shared his empathy and goodness, showering it on the most needy, whether it was hosting HBO’s Comic Relief, visiting shelters, serving on the board of the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation, supporting research for spinal-cord injuries  or performing tirelessly for the U.S. armed forces overseas.

The Jewish Week of August 15th 2014 reported that many people often thought of Robin  as a Jew. However, his father was an Episcopalian and his mother was a Christian Scientist. Despite this, Robin found meaning in the Jewish faith and befriended such Jewish greats as Billy Crystal and Steven Spielberg. During the making of the film Schindler’s List, Robin would call Spielberg every day to brighten the director’s mood.Robin embraced Jewish themes, and starred in “Jakob the Liar” in 1999. He was also the comic for the USC Survivors of the Shoah Visual History Foundation, where he managed to bring laughter despite it being  a Holocaust memorial event.

Unlike so many other greats, Robin felt guilty about the material things he had received both as a child and as an adult.. He knew he had emotional problems, and for many years of his life he took an active role in getting the right kind of help. Mood disorders, such as bipolar have been openly discussed, thank goodness, by such celebrities as Jim Carrey, (who also said he had a miserable childhood because his mother was mentally ill), Catherine Zeta-Jones, and even the news anchor Jane Pauley. Williams could be extremely hyperactive and then extremely depressed.  As in some of these instances, like for many others,  humor was a distraction from the inner pain felt during childhood.

What many outside of the psychiatric professional community do not know is that ADHD and bipolar often go hand in hand. Once Robin was asked why he didn’t write an autobiography; his answer was simply that he could not sit long enough to do that kind of thing.  Dr, Bellak used to say, “ADHD is the curtain; behind it, you will find many other challenges.” One day, when I was visited by a well-known pharmaceutical company, both the representative and I concluded that just as there is a specific protocol for various types of chemotherapy for cancer, one day there will be a protocol for treating mental illnesses. A pinprick of sorts will determine which medications one should take, and there will be no more guessing games as to what will work best. Let’s hope that this type of medical advancement in mental health treatment administered along with quality psychiatric care is not too far off in the future.

In essence, ADHD, bipolar, and/or borderline personality go hand in hand with creativity. Many comics suffer with ADHD, but they make the most of it. Comics may find their craft easy because they can shift quickly from one joke to another rather than stay on any one topic. They move around. They get instant responses from the audience. Their impulsiveness is hidden behind joke-telling. It has been said that those with brilliance such as Einstein and Leonardo da Vinci may also have suffered with ADHD. Being practical was not one of their strong points.  Da Vinci had a reputation for getting bored and restless easily  and often didn’t finish the  works that he had commissioned to complete.

However, ADHD can be be a gift in disguise, leading to becoming an amazing entrepreneur. David Neeleman, the former CEO of JET BLUE,has been very candid about his ADHD. On the other hand, ADHD is often accompanied by learning issues and/or various processing issues that can take a toll on relationships. No wonder the personal relationships suffer. This disorder lends itself to impulsivity, boredom, an endless sex drive, moodiness, and poor management of money, and more. Thankfully, today there are advancements in medications that can make a huge difference. However, because of the stigma of bipolar, or ADHD, many people go untreated. Changing jobs or partners or resorting to drugs or alcohol just seems to be an easier solution.Let Williams’ tragic end remind us to  take care of each other, especially with all this new awareness. Even when people  come out of rehabilitation, it is crucial that there be an intermediate facility available to them, before going back to their normal everyday lives. Are there any such facilities?  I don’t believe so. In my opinion,  all patients would benefit from having a coach specifically assigned to them, for significant length of time as, not just temporarily Let us all learn from the loss of the wonderful Robin Williams and try not to let any such individuals out of our grasp. People like Williams, as with all of us, need never feel there are no alternatives or options—and thus could avoid  downward spirals that lead them to take what they see as the only option and terminate their delicate and invaluable lives.

Kerin Bellak-Adams

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For Robin Williams…

Robin Williams

A face with many sides.
A genius with a large heart
A face with so many expressions
Of which we will not loose or part
Was it meant to be that bi-polar was his fate?
Why couldn’t someone save his soul
Before it was too late?

What let to his demise?
Perhaps bi-polar was not the cause of his early demise
Only his family will know the answer
Behind  any disguise.

So funny he was throughout the years
Thank goodness he was the receiver of a prestigious award not too long ago
At least he felt appreciated once and for all.

Depression underneath humor is often the case
So often this is not on ones’ face
Wiping away our tears
Perhaps Robin was infiltrated with fears
Tears and a threat of some kind
Brought about this loss
If only someone had wrapped their arms around him one more time.

Loss and depth of feelings we only know too well
We don’t have to be bi-polar
To feel the pangs of  a life filled with ups and downs
One does not need to be mentally ill
For emotions to own us and take us close to something to lessen the pain
But as with Robin,
He was strong for most of his life and with all it’s pain.

A genius of a man was given to us for awhile
And along with this,
Was a streak of misfortune
Talent breeds sensitivity and sometimes dysfunction
Some sensitivity is a plus
The glasses one wears
Can help with coping each day
Don’t take the route to end it all
It doesn’t pay

Films we will never forget,
Mrs Doubtfire, Good Will Hunting to mention just a few,
Thank goodness he finally felt our love and respect
No there was no neglect
As he received his award in 2013
At the Screen Actors Guild
You could hear his joy in his voice
How much he was touched
It’s as if he had the love he sought
No this joy could not be bought.

Most of us cannot wrap our minds around this lasting void
No one can come close to Robin’s level of talent, heart and strength
Reaching down into one’s soul
To make others laugh
And help others forget about their own grief
This kind of person gives us all true feelings of relief.

Life as we know it will not be the same without Robin
He graced us with feelings we tuck deep inside
Most of us sometimes try to hide
But perhaps his children will carry on in some way
That would be his delight
We are sure of that we can all say.

Special souls of this kind
And the greatness of this magnitude
Are but rented to us for a brief time,
And then we have to let go,
For the last time.

Let us embrace the memories non can take away
Chosen few are here for a limited time
And this we must be weary of and perhaps even fear.
As you never know when they will disappear
Let us be grateful
We had such a soul for the span of some years.

– Kerin Adams

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Bullying at School: Is Your ADHD Kid a Victim?

There is an excellent article in a recent issue of ADDitude Magazine about this. Here is an excerpt:

Is Your ADHD Child Being Bullied at School?

Children with ADHD may believe they bring bullying on themselves with their inappropriate behavior, or that there is nothing they — or their parents — can do about it. Even if your child knows that she can safely confide in you and her teachers, she may be hesitant to do so.

ADHD kids have an “out of sight, out of mind” approach to solving problems, so it may help to gently question your child about the social scene at school. Casually ask her who she is friendly with — and who she’s not — and if she’s happy with her social life at school. Your child may not even be aware that she is being targeted until you ask the questions that reveal it.

If you suspect that your child is the target of bullying, ask her teachers whether your child’s social skills are contributing to any difficulties she may be having.

You can read the entire article HERE.

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Do You Know the Difference Between ADHD and Anxiety?

I found a really good article and brief quiz from Diana Rodriguez at everydayhealth.com about the difference between AD/HD and anxiety. Here’s a small part of it:

Childhood ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is a controversial topic that is still widely misunderstood. While some noticeable behaviors — such as the inability to pay attention or sit still for any period of time — could be signs of ADHD, there are also many types of anxiety disorders, which can also affect children in similar ways.

It’s not uncommon for ADHD to be confused with an anxiety disorder…because symptoms can be very similar. On top of that, a child can have both ADHD and an anxiety disorder at the same time, according to Matthew Jarrett, PhD, assistant professor in the department of psychology at the University of Alabama. Establishing the correct diagnosis for each child is key. “Approximately 30 to 40 percent of children with ADHD meet criteria for an anxiety disorder, but there are also cases where ADHD is diagnosed when an anxiety disorder may be the more appropriate diagnosis.”

Read the entire article HERE

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New Review of AD/HD Success

” Yes, I recommend AD/HD Success! Solutions for Boosting Self-Esteem: The Diary Method for Ages 7-17 by Kerin Bellak-Adams. By working one day at a time on developing inner values and goals, these youngsters, inspite of their AD/HD or because of the unique gifts of it, will be much better off to face adulthood.”

Read the entire review HERE

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Watch Dr. Hallowell in a Recent NYC Lecture

Click HERE to watch the video

 

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Thanks Terry Matlen!

To all coaches! Terry Matlen of ADDconsults confirms that AD/HD Success! Solutions to Boosting Self-Esteem is a wonderful book to use by coaches who work with kids! Thanks Terry

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Rutgers Partners with the National Institute of Mental Health

Rutgers University Cell and DNA Repository has established a stem cell repository for the National Institute of Mental Health. The biology of mental health disorders has been especially difficult to study because brain tissue from affected individuals is seldom available.

“”Rutgers University Cell and DNA Repository (RUCDR) has established a stem cell repository for the National Institute of Mental Health that will better enable researchers to study a variety of mental health disorders, including autism, attention deficit disorder, major depression, and schizophrenia, that affect millions of Americans.”

CLICK HERE to read the entire article from PhysOrg.com.

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Better Attention Equals Better Memory

Children and adults diagnosed with ADD/ADHD struggle with memory simply because of their shortened attention span. Memory is only as good as the information you put in it, you can’t remember what you put into it.

“People with ADHD tend to have weaker working memories as compared to their overall intelligence. I often say this gap is comparable to the gap people with ADHD have between their potential and their actual performance. People with ADHD tend to have ‘blinkier’ working memory, so information is taken in but then dropped or knocked out before the information transfers into long-term memory.”

To finish reading this article on ADD.org, please CLICK HERE.

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